Comments on: Listen With Your Eyes http://pillsdontteachskills.com/2007/09/17/listen-with-your-eyes/ A Personal Story of Overcoming the Challenges of Adult ADD by Jeff Hamilton and Adult ADD Coach Pete Quily Thu, 28 Aug 2008 08:31:46 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=1.5.2 Comment on Listen With Your Eyes by: TGG http://pillsdontteachskills.com/2007/09/17/listen-with-your-eyes/#comment-15075 Sat, 10 Nov 2007 12:19:15 +0000 http://pillsdontteachskills.com/2007/09/17/listen-with-your-eyes/#comment-15075 Agreed that listening with your eyes can be very effective. Yet I feel frustrated when I look at someone in the eyes because I often get so caught up in their facial features or other random thoughts about how they look...that I miss what they are saying. It's like I have to either look away and LISTEN to them OR look at them but not listen. When I'm looking at them, I understand their expressions and emotions and gestures. But it's like I don't hear the "message" or specific content of what they are saying. When I'm listening but not looking, I hear the specific content, but I don't catch the body language and the emotion and subtle meanings behind it. When I take my ADD meds, I do better, and listening and seeing come together a bit more. But dealing with the side effects of the meds is so hard that I often don't take them. Not sure how to reconcile this, as I'm a healthcare provider and I need to be able to listen and look at the same time. Suggestions welcome. TGG Agreed that listening with your eyes can be very effective. Yet I feel frustrated when I look at someone in the eyes because I often get so caught up in their facial features or other random thoughts about how they look…that I miss what they are saying. It’s like I have to either look away and LISTEN to them OR look at them but not listen. When I’m looking at them, I understand their expressions and emotions and gestures. But it’s like I don’t hear the “message” or specific content of what they are saying. When I’m listening but not looking, I hear the specific content, but I don’t catch the body language and the emotion and subtle meanings behind it.

When I take my ADD meds, I do better, and listening and seeing come together a bit more. But dealing with the side effects of the meds is so hard that I often don’t take them.

Not sure how to reconcile this, as I’m a healthcare provider and I need to be able to listen and look at the same time. Suggestions welcome.

TGG

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