A Good Fight - ADD In Adult Relationships
So, is ADD to be blamed for the downfall and difficulties in relationships with an ADD’r and Non-ADD’r? On occasion yes, however most of the time it’s not the ADD that causes the problem, instead it is how the couple chooses to deal or not deal with the diagnosis of ADD.
I can reflect back through my divorce and see glaring examples of a couple back then who simply didn’t know how to communicate and deal with the challenge of ADD, or of a relationship in general. Thank goodness I can look back……laugh, and say that I learned from my process.
Today, after having worked hard on who I am and having a good understanding of my strengths and weaknesses, I have a completely different tool box of tools to help me succeed and maintain a healthy happy adult relationship. Sometimes, a Non-ADD spouse feels the pressure of being the main organizer, cleaner, cooker, bill payer and much more. Sometimes, the hyperactive ADD’r takes all this on. No matter what situation a couple may be experiencing, these differences need to be communicated and worked on constantly with many others. Each partner should and can be contributing to the marriage with their strengths.
I’m sure we all realize that, couples in which one spouse assumed that the other has ADD, yet the partner refuses treatment and lives in denial are by far the most difficult. For those couples that are working to find a way of creating a harmonious life together, I urge you to continue and never give up. The good things in life are worth a good fight!