Comments on: Speaking The Truth http://pillsdontteachskills.com/2008/03/17/speaking-the-truth/ A Personal Story of Overcoming the Challenges of Adult ADD by Jeff Hamilton / ADD-ADHD Mentoring Tue, 01 May 2012 01:13:34 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Jeff Hamilton http://pillsdontteachskills.com/2008/03/17/speaking-the-truth/#comment-63873 Jeff Hamilton Thu, 04 Nov 2010 15:14:04 +0000 http://pillsdontteachskills.com/2008/03/17/speaking-the-truth/#comment-63873 You can link to my post of use my quote and credit where you got the quote from. You can link to my post of use my quote and credit where you got the quote from.

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]]> By: Michelle http://pillsdontteachskills.com/2008/03/17/speaking-the-truth/#comment-23007 Michelle Tue, 18 Mar 2008 03:49:06 +0000 http://pillsdontteachskills.com/2008/03/17/speaking-the-truth/#comment-23007 Hello Mr. Hamilton Wow, blogging is fun, kinda like journaling in public! I like the article, I agree that taking a calm relaxed approach in speaking the truth is important. Procrastination or avoidance comes from a place of fear, (what are you afraid of?) while patience is a reaction to ones spirit. Procrastination may very well delay the truth, however, it is also a valid reaction to something not feeling quite right, it buys us time to thoroughly investigate a situation or providing time to prepare for that difficult conversation. We all have our own version of the truth, actually the truth is rarely quite as black and white as we would like to think. Honouring and communicating our own truth takes a tremendous amount of self awareness, courage, strength and stamina. We are often sidetracked by our desire to please, avoid disappointing others or by societies barometors. We were brought up to behave, be nice, polite and kind. Understanding the value of kindness vs. being nice is imperative in any successful relations. Being kind is brave, being nice simply scratches the surface and to me feels distant, unattached. Expressing our intention is equally important when telling the truth. Ask yourself, why do I need to speak this truth, what do I hope to accommplish, who is my audience and how will I communicate it. I believe that curiosity is key in understanding others, it keeps a situation nuetral, nobody has to win or loose. Our mind (ego) desperately seeks to understand, figure out or even fix a situation, our tendancy to believe in only 2 solutions, right or wrong. Our heart on the other hands, seeks, compassion, acceptance and love. If you approach a situation caring, listening and you come from a genuine and curious (wondering) perspective, people are more inclined to open up and share. If you sense that someone is holding back, withholding truth, making accusations or challenging them never works in your favor. The inability to fully disclose the truth is indicative of internal struggles, not necessarily a peson of deciet. A behaviour is not a person. Wanna get to know someone's truth? Don't assume to know them, get curious, ask questions, be open and without judgement, instead, invite perspective and be unattached to being right! The answer to all of our questions is available, the truth will unfold and love and patience are key. Trust that we are unique and we are same, creative, resourceful and whole. With Love and Gratitude Hello Mr. Hamilton

Wow, blogging is fun, kinda like journaling in public!

I like the article, I agree that taking a calm relaxed approach in speaking the truth is important. Procrastination or avoidance comes from a place of fear, (what are you afraid of?) while patience is a reaction to ones spirit. Procrastination may very well delay the truth, however, it is also a valid reaction to something not feeling quite right, it buys us time to thoroughly investigate a situation or providing time to prepare for that difficult conversation.

We all have our own version of the truth, actually the truth is rarely quite as black and white as we would like to think. Honouring and communicating our own truth takes a tremendous amount of self awareness, courage, strength and stamina. We are often sidetracked by our desire to please, avoid disappointing others or by societies barometors. We were brought up to behave, be nice, polite and kind.

Understanding the value of kindness vs. being nice is imperative in any successful relations. Being kind is brave, being nice simply scratches the surface and to me feels distant, unattached. Expressing our intention is equally important when telling the truth. Ask yourself, why do I need to speak this truth, what do I hope to accommplish, who is my audience and how will I communicate it.

I believe that curiosity is key in understanding others, it keeps a situation nuetral, nobody has to win or loose. Our mind (ego) desperately seeks to understand, figure out or even fix a situation, our tendancy to believe in only 2 solutions, right or wrong. Our heart on the other hands, seeks, compassion, acceptance and love. If you approach a situation caring, listening and you come from a genuine and curious (wondering) perspective, people are more inclined to open up and share. If you sense that someone is holding back, withholding truth, making accusations or challenging them never works in your favor. The inability to fully disclose the truth is indicative of internal struggles, not necessarily a peson of deciet. A behaviour is not a person. Wanna get to know someone’s truth? Don’t assume to know them, get curious, ask questions, be open and without judgement, instead, invite perspective and be unattached to being right!

The answer to all of our questions is available, the truth will unfold and love and patience are key. Trust that we are unique and we are same, creative, resourceful and whole.

With Love and Gratitude

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