Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff
I’m having a second read of a book I love called Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff, by Richard Carlson. It a small book with 100 little tips or stories, to help us keep the little challenges in life from turning into big ones.
ADD’ers are often challenged by being very hyper-focused and can become obsessed with trying to make something perfect. It could be keeping the house clean, taking care of the yard, a project at work or many other things that we all experience in day to day life.
I really enjoyed re-reading Richard Carlson’s Simple Way #2, Make Peace with Imperfection:
“I’ve yet to meet an absolute perfectionist whose life was filled with inner peace. The need for perfection and the desire for inner tranquility conflict with each other. Whenever we are attached to having something a certain way, better than it already is, we are, almost by definition, engaged in a losing battle. Rather than being content and grateful for what we have, we are focused on what’s wrong with something and our need to fix it. When we are zeroed in on what’s wrong, it implies that we are dissatisfied, discontent.
Whether it’s related to ourselves–a disorganized closet, a scratch on the car, an imperfect accomplishment, a few pounds we would like to lose–or someone else’s “imperfections”–the way someone looks, behaves, or lives their life–the very act of focusing on imperfection pulls us away from our goal of being kind and gentle. This strategy has nothing to do with ceasing to do your very best but with being overly attached and focused on what’s wrong with life. It’s about realizing that while there’s always a better way to do something, this doesn’t mean that you can’t enjoy and appreciate the way things already are.
The solution here is to catch yourself when you fall into your habit of insisting that things should be other than they are. Gently remind yourself that life is okay the way it is, right now. In the absence of your judgment, everything would be fine. As you begin to eliminate your need for perfection in all areas of your life, you’ll begin to discover the perfection in life itself.”
Seems pretty simple, doesn’t it?
January 22nd, 2010 at 8:40 am
Thank you for sharing those phrases here. Really helpful.
January 29th, 2010 at 2:16 am
I’ve been searching for this exact information on this topic for a while.