All the people in your life who’ve come and gone
They let you down, you know they hurt your pride
Better put it all behind you; cause life goes on
You keep carrin’ that anger, it’ll eat you up inside
I wanna be happily ever after
And my heart is so shattered
But I know it’s about forgiveness
Forgiveness 

Very powerful words, right? There is a good message in that song. Working on a thought process and managing ADD can be accomplished and one of the pieces of the puzzle for many, is learning to forgive. Forgiveness allows us to move past issues, focus on more relevant tasks at hand and allows us to stop wasting time and emotions. Forgiveness is almost like a free form of ADD medication

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“Once I get something in my mind (a plan), it can be tricky to let go of it and go with the flow. I was taught, and to some degree it’s certainly true, that success, or successfully completing a project, requires perseverance. At the same time, however, inflexibility creates an enormous amount of inner stress and is often irritating and insensitive to other people. I like to do the majority of my writing in the wee hours of the morning. I might have the goal, in this book for example, to complete one or two strategies before anyone else in the house wakes up. But what happens if my four-year-old wakes up early and walks upstairs to see me? My plans have certainly been altered, but how do I react? Or, I might have the goal to go out for a run before going to the office. What happens if I get an emergency call from my office and have to skip my run? There are countless potential examples for all of us – times when our plans suddenly change, something we thought was going to take place doesn’t, someone doesn’t do what they said they would do, you make less money than you thought you would, someone changes your plan without your consent, you have less time than previously planned, something unexpected comes up – and on and on it goes. The question to ask yourself is, what’s really important?

We use the excuse that it’s natural to feel frustrated when our plans change. That depends, however, on what your priorities are. Is it more important to stick to some rigid writing schedule to be available to my four-year-old? Is missing a thirty-minute run worth getting upset over? The more general question is, “What’s more important, getting what I want and keeping my plans, or learning to go with the flow?” Clearly, to become a more peaceful person, you must prioritize being flexible over rigidity most of the time (obviously there will be exceptions). I’ve also found it helpful to expect that a certain percentage of plans will change. If I make allowances in my mind for this inevitability, then when it happens, I can say, “Here is one of those inevitabilities.”You’ll find that if you create the goal to become more flexible, some wonderful things will begin to happen. You’ll feel more relaxed, yet you won’t sacrifice any productivity. You may become even more productive, because you won’t need to expend so much energy being upset and worried. I’ve learned to trust that I will keep my deadlines, achieve most of my goals, and honor my responsibilities despite the fact that I may have to alter my plans slightly (or even completely). Finally, the people around you will be more relaxed too. They won’t feel like they have to walk around on eggshells if, by some chance, your plans have to change.”

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Dr. Campbell is the Jacob Gould Schurman Professor Emeritus of Nutritional Biochemistry at Cornell University. He has more than seventy grant-years of peer-reviewed research funding and authored more than 300 research papers and coauthor of the bestselling the book, The China Study: Startling Implications for Diet, Weight Loss and Long-term Health. Dr. Campbell has been on The Dr. Oz Show, featured on The Huffington Post, on CNN, in the New York Times.

On his site, he has a section on ADD as well. He has some very interesting thoughts on food and nutrition which might be of assistance to you or someone you know regarding ADD.

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Think about how many ADD’ers you know, maybe you are one……and how the challenge of narcissistic habits may have impacted your life. The idea behind a Level 5 leader is that they channel their needs away from  themselves and into the larger goal of building a great company. It’s not that Level 5 leaders have no ego or self interest. They are incredibly ambitious, but their ambition is first and foremost for their institution, not themselves.

With the narcissistic challenges faced by many ADD’ers, perhaps the philosophy and practices of a Level 5 leader might lend a hand.

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7 Crucial Tips for Parents and Teachers of Children with ADHD

As Bryan says “please download it, read it and share it”. The eBook is slightly under 5mb and it was not possible to make it any smaller, but is still small enough to be emailed, posted or linked to on your blog, your website or on Facebook or Twitter, or all of the above. Bryan’s web site is adderworld.ning.com and if you want the free eBook, click here 7 Crucial Tips for Parents and Teachers of Children with ADHD

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Any thoughts or ideas on how to accomplish this a little more efficiently and with greater success? Please comment, thanks.

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