The Charlie Schulz Philosophy & ADD

Can this somehow be related to anything to do with ADD? I don’t know. But my 88 year old Grandmother passed this along to me, she loves to email! Perhaps after reading what the late Charles Schulz wrote, you may be able to connect the dots. If there is no connection, hey, worse case is you’ve enjoyed a good read about what matters in life. The following is the philosophy of Charles Schulz, the creator of the ‘Peanuts’ comic strip.

Name the five wealthiest people in the world.Name the last five Heisman trophy winners.Name the last five winners of the Miss America pageant.Name ten people who have won the Nobel or Pulitzer Prize.Name the last half dozen Academy Award winners for best actor and actress.Name the last decade’s worth of World Series winners

How did you do? The point is, none of us remember the headliners of yesterday. These are no second-rate achievers. They are the best in their fields. But the applause dies…awards tarnish. Achievements are forgotten. Accolades and certificates are buried with their owners.

See how you do on this one:

1. List a few teachers who aided your journey through school.
2. Name three friends who have helped you through a difficult time.
3. Name five people who have taught you something worthwhile…
4. Think of a few people who have made you feel appreciated and special!!
5. Think of five people you enjoy spending time with.

Easier? The lesson: The people who make a difference in your life are not the ones with the most credentials… the most money…or the most awards.

There is always a hidden gem from from the seniors in our society, like this great reminder above about life from my Grandmother. She also told me about a friend named Harold who said “I’ve often been asked, what do you old folks do now that you’re retired? Well… I’m fortunate to have a chemical engineering background and one of the things I enjoy most is converting beer, wine and whiskey into urine. I do it every day and I really enjoy it.”

Be Yourself. Everyone Else Is Taken!

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You Are What You Eat, With ADD

As an ADD adult, many people face challenges that differ from others with ADD. One challenge can be extra weight, and as we all know this can lead to other medical challenges such as diabetes or heart conditions. I’m lucky I guess, I’ve managed to learn a lot about food, nutrition and exercise over the years and have established a pretty healthy life style. Complex carbohydrate “carbs” like fish and chicken are brain food! Red wine is healthy isn’t it? It’s good for the heart I hear, ya, that’s my justification.

The reality of weight issues for many ADD’ers is a hard challenge to overcome. Unplanned meals and a balanced diet lead to satisfying meals or hungers with quick food choices that often include fast food and usually don’t result in a balanced dietary approach. The wrong foods don’t give our bodies what we need to sustain energy and focus and we simply don’t get that brain power we all need. Proper food planning includes Snacking throughout the day, small healthy snacks between meals is great for energy, getting that metabolism functioning and it sustains energy as opposed to crashing between meals. Things like almonds, celery, granola & yogurt, apple, pear, Wasa crackers with almond/peanut butter, egg whites and veggies are great!

Stay away from those chips, candies and other things you might crave, and what an ADD’er may have an impulsive draw too. They are loaded with so much garbage and sugar and will set you up for an energy shut down quickly after. I know it can be hard, you can do it! Reach for the healthy snack instead.

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Just Say No

I read a good article recently on saying no. Many ADD’ers can multi-task, and some can’t. One of the pitfalls people will stumble into, is feeling obligated to do something or help when they are already managing too much. Learning to identify when it’s time to say no and step back and turn it off is a very important skill everyone must learn. Many people feel pressured and this pressure comes in two forms; direct or self imposed.

Direct pressure could come from a boss who is leaning on you to take another task on and meet a deadline. Self imposed pressure is almost always a result of  simply taking on too much, when we have the choice of not doing so. It requires a thought process that allows us to find that internal off switch and realize that we are about to take on too much. There is nothing wrong with saying no, it is your right.

I saw some great advice online from Laurie Dupar, Senior Certified ADHD Coach and Psychiatric Nurse Practitioner, who specializes in working with clients diagnosed with ADD/ADHD. She said, “Today I invite you to join me in remembering it’s OK to say no, and our world (or other people’s worlds) won’t fall apart because of it.
- Say: “No” if your plate is already full.
- Say: “Let me check my calendar and get back to you.”
- Say: “I’d love to help…let me get back to you later.”
- Say, “I’d love to, but now is not a good time…when can we reschedule?”
- Say: “I would be happy to do you a favor…if I can.”
- Say: “Can I have a rain check?”
- Say no if you’d rather relax than go out—or go out rather than stay in. Only we know when we need to recharge and take care of ourselves.
- Say no, even if a part of you feels a little guilty about it. Feeling guilty means we are stuck between two things that are important to us- like wanting to help others, but needing to take care of current responsibilities. There are always going to be requests. I like to be asked. Sometimes I’ll be able to help; sometimes I won’t.
- Say no because you don’t have time.
- Say no even without a detailed excuse—“This isn’t the right fit for me” is perfectly valid.
- And perhaps the hardest, say no if you change your mind, even if you’ve already said yes.”

Try and figure out what strategy of saying no might work for you and understand how to turn your internal off switch off. Read Laurie Duparat’s article The ADHD Challenge of Saying “No”

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Harley-Davidson CEO Makes Multimillion Dollar Pledge for ADHD Treatment

The medical and government debacles with ADD/ADHD continue. As written by Pamela Fayerman at The Vancouver Sun; “For three years, a Canadian business leader tried to donate more than $3 million to BC Children’s Hospital. But he was frustrated in his bid to give his money away because of a donation debacle.

Don James, CEO of Deeley Harley-Davidson Canada, eventually took his multimillion-dollar pledge to Lions Gate Hospital, where it has now been enthusiastically and gratefully accepted. The motorcycle mogul, who owns a magnificant estate on Vancouver Island where he and his wife breed Arabian horses, told me he wanted to donate money towards Childrens’ attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) program. At the time, Children’s accepted both children and adults for treatment and the James family had benefitted from the high quality care.

“We’ve had some experience with ADHD in our family,” he said. “My wife Ruth, and I, wanted to ensure that children treated there aren’t suddenly dropped as patients when they transition to adulthood,” he said, noting that in 2009, a B.C. Medical Association report drew attention to the need for more services for ADHD patients of all ages.

James approached various mental health experts at the Provincial Health Services Authority (PHSA), the BC Mental Health Foundation as well as experts at BC Children’s.  Although there was initial interest, no one got back to him with a plan or promise to use the money, he said.

Dr. Jana Davidson, a psychiatrist and head of mental health at BC Children’s and Women’s Hospital and Health Centre, admitted that, as one of those tasked with handling the pledge, she dropped the ball and left James and his wife dangling for three years. “I feel badly. These were incredibly generous, well-meaning people, intent on trying to improve services for those living with the negative effects of ADHD. “The responsibility fell on my shoulders. I should have done a better job, especially in the formal communication with them,” Davidson said.

James said he made several overtures to experts, including Leslie Arnold, president of BC Mental Health and Addictions Services, a PHSA agency that has a mandate for ADHD services based at Children’s Hospital. When James first approached BC Children’s in 2008, the hospital was about to stop accepting adult patients because waiting lists were too long. Even after dropping adult patients, waiting lists for pediatric patients — and their parents who may be taught new parenting skills —  are still long. At present, new patients must wait five months to be seen.

Davidson said James wanted to “ramp up” a program that was the victim of finite resources. She was loath to accept money for a program that might run out of resources again. But no one ever told James that his gift wouldn’t be accepted, nor did anyone refer him to other medical centres or even the hospital foundation, which employs fund development pros who know how to finesse donations and properly handle donors.

James said his experience is instructive for others wanting to give money to health causes. “If they weren’t interested in our donation, they should have had more respect by referring us elsewhere because we weren’t talking about an insignificant amount of money. We weren’t given the straight goods. People were protecting their turf and not thinking about all the patients out there who aren’t getting proper treatment. “We were handled in an incompetent, unprofessional manner,” he said.

At one point, Premier Christy Clark was even involved in the matter, albeit indirectly. At the time, a year ago, she was campaigning for the Liberal leadership. On a radio show, she commented on the need for more services for adult ADHD patients. James said right after that, he got a call from a BC Children’s hospital representative asking if he was still willing to make the pledge. He said he was, but once again there was “no further feedback, no thanks, or anything.”

In frustration, the James family decided to see if their money could be used by another hospital. A friend of theirs connected them to the enthusiastic president of the Lions Gate Hospital Foundation, Judy Savage. “This wonderful couple were captivated with our plans for our new Hope Centre and right off the bat, we had a meeting with the medical people,” Savage said, referring to psychiatry leaders.

The first million dollars of the James donation will be used towards the construction of the Hope Centre, an inpatient and outpatient mental health facility expected to open by the end of next year. “We already do some work in the ADHD area,” said Savage. “If we weren’t, and couldn’t use their gift, then I would make it clear to them who does that and refer them elsewhere. Our job in philanthropy is to find out what is close to donors’ hearts. We don’t ram our vision down their throats and if it requires directing donors elsewhere, then we do that, because we can’t operate in silos in health care philanthropy.”

Leslie Arnold, president of BC Mental Health and Addictions, said she’s both disappointed and encouraged by the way things have played out. “I’m disappointed we weren’t able to serve the James family. But for whomever receives their donation, it’s good news for mental health.”

James said he’s incredulous he’s only recently learned more about the dithering on his pledge. And he’s especially disturbed he discovered about it through a Vancouver Sun journalist (this writer), not from hospital officials. “No one ever told us they couldn’t use our money or why. We offered money and they simply ignored us.”

Stephen Forgacs, spokesman for the BC Children’s Hospital Foundation, which was never involved in the negotiations, said it’s unfortunate his agency wasn’t asked by anyone to participate in the process because when big donors are willing to donate money, “we bend over backwards for them. “We work with them to find the solution that works for them and works for the organization [hospital].” James said he never went to the foundation because he presumed his pledge would be handled appropriately by the mental health experts. He now realizes he shouldn’t have made such an assumption.

Forgacs concedes that even when hospital foundations are involved, there are sometimes hitches, as in this case, where a program serving adult ADHD patients was discontinued around the same time the pledge for the donation came in. That meant the donors’ wishes were not in alignment with existing programs and services. “It’s still very unlikely the foundation would ever turn away donors but it’s challenging when it’s being designated to programs that are not sustainable,” said Forgacs.

The Don James donation debacle played a role in the resignation from BC Children’s Hospital of Dr. Margaret Weiss, one of the world’s leading authorities on ADHD. Weiss had practised psychiatry at the hospital for 20 years and had led the ADHD program for about the last half of them until she left a few months ago.
The McGill and Harvard University-educated psychiatrist is now seeing ADHD patients and conducting research in her North Shore home office. She’s one of the world’s most prolific authors of ADHD studies published in prestigious medical journals. She also advises health systems around the world how to provide ADHD treatment programs.

Weiss said the diversion of the James donation, coupled with the BCCH policy to stop accepting patients after their 19th birthday, was devastating news to her and her patients. It was one of the reasons she resigned, she said. “The teen to adult transition years are when kids with ADHD are at their most vulnerable stage of life. ADHD raises the risk of learning problems, education failures, crime, car accidents, recreational accidents, brain injuries, alcohol and drug addiction, unintended pregnancies and on and on,” she said.

ADHD is often diagnosed in childhood. But symptoms and impairments endure through the adult years. A life cycle clinic recognizes that ADHD is often a life long condition so the model proposed by Don and Ruth James, in which patients of all ages are treated, is exciting to Weiss. She is, in fact, hoping she’s considered as head of the new clinic on the North Shore.

Since ADHD may be inheritable, children diagnosed with it often have a parent with it as well. Weiss said that’s why it makes sense to have a centre where families can receive treatment. Most countries with sophisticated health systems already do that, but not Canada, she said. Treatment for ADHD involves medications (usually stimulants) and behavioural counselling. Parents of ADHD kids are often offered parenting skills training.

Dr. Derryck Smith, the former head of psychiatry at BCCH, who now works there only one day a week while seeing patients in his private clinic on other days, said it’s a “real pity” Children’s Hospital has lost not only Weiss but also the funding opportunity for a life-cycle clinic. “What the province desperately needs, in my opinion, is a clinic that will assess and treat patients of all ages, in a multidisciplinary, research-focused, academic setting. This is important for teaching the next generation of doctors, who currently get almost no training in ADHD, esepcially in adults,” Smith said.

Dr. Lance Patrick, head of psychiatry at Lions Gate Hospital, said the concept of a “life cycle” ADHD clinic is an excellent idea “because ADHD doesn’t just go away as kids become adults.” He’s thrilled that Lions Gate is the beneficiary of the James donation.

Plans are now being drafted to establish the new clinic on the North Shore. Using funds pledged from the James family, the clinic would ideally consolidate all the Vancouver Coastal Health (VCH) services for ADHD into one location.
Lions Gate Hospital is making good progress on the James family pledge.  Patrick said a draft proposal of the new clinic was recently presented to his VCH regional counterparts. There was agreement in principle to proceed with a business plan. But no one yet knows where the clinic will be located or when it will open, Patrick said.”

Read the original article at Vancouver Sun BY Pamela Fayerman

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100 Tips About Life, People, and Happiness (Part 2)

To continue from my last post, part 1 of 100 Tips About Life, People, and Happiness……..here is part 2 and the remaining 50 tips;

51. But also, help people who have never helped you, and can’t.
52. When you know that pain is temporary, it affects all of your decisions.
53. Get a tattoo. Don’t worry about regret.
54. Commit to things, regularly, that are far beyond your ability.
55. Meet with friends more often than you think you have to.
56. Learn to meditate. Go on a retreat if you have to.
57. Your stories are both more and less interesting than you think.
58. Learn to really listen.
59. Walk more.
60. Ugly is just a step on the way to beautiful.
61. Get to know your neighbours.
62. Don’t take anything personally, ever.
63. Consider avoiding school. Go to lots of conferences instead.
64. As soon as you can, buy some art.
65. Apologize more than you need to.
66. Find out if there will be food there.
67. A good haircut changes everything.
68. Read Man’s Search For Meaning.
69. Say no to projects you don’t care about.
70. Do things that are uncool. Later on, they usually end up becoming cool anyway.
71. Find your voice.
72. Have some manners.
73. Learn to play chess, go, and bridge. They’ll keep you from going senile.
74. Learn about the Tetrapharmakos.
75. Find ways to cheat the system– just don’t cheat people.
76. Be like Jesus, not like his followers. (This applies to all of them.)
77. At least once, date someone that’s out of your league.
78. Examine your jealousy. You’ll learn a lot about yourself.
79. Good connections are about people, not social networks.
80. Address small problems. They will become big problems.
81. Dress like a cooler version of yourself.
82. Yes, there is such a thing as bad press.
83. Add “adventurer” to your Twitter bio. Then, become one.
84. If the internet is the best thing in your life, you have a serious problem.
85. Give away your best work for free.
86. Find mentors. Just don’t call them that.
87. Actually write on your blog. Nobody cares if it’s hard.
88. Download Freedom. Use it for an hour every day.
89. Join a gym. Lift the heaviest you can. (This applies to girls too.)
90. Do some freewriting. It helps you think things through.
91. When you’re having supper with rich people, pick up the cheque.
92. Learn how to speak in public.
93. If you see someone who needs help, stop asking yourself if they need help. Instead, just help.
94. Bring a bottle of wine.
95. The best conversations are had side by side, not one in front of the other.
96. Protect your hearing. Trust me.
97. Do what’s most important first thing in the morning, before you check email.
98. Everyone feels like they’re not good enough. It’s not just you.
99. Courage is a learned skill.
100. Go to Iceland. It’s worth it.

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100 Tips About Life, People, and Happiness (Part 1)

Happiness……that never ending quest that comes easy for some, and eludes others. I recently came across an enjoyable online read that helped to put life into prospective, while also tying in to ADD/ADHD a little bit too. Many of these 100 tips just might be a simple way to help manage ADD.

1. True wisdom and insight is always free.
2. Give your power over to no one.
3. Going into the unknown is how you expand what is known.
4. Get a library card.
5. Spend more time around people that both challenge and respect you.
6. Remain skeptical forever.
7. Fight for what matters.
8. There is a method that works. Find it.
9. Join a movement.
10. Drink your coffee black.
11. Never let anyone photoshop a picture of you. It creates a false sense of self-confidence.
12. Read more. Especially things you disagree with.
13. Get used to feeling stupid. It’s a sign of growth.
14. It’s easy for people to talk a good game, so watch how they behave instead.
15. Learn something from everyone.
16. Find things that inspire you and pursue them, even if there’s no money in it.
17. Starve if you have to, for as long as you need to.
18. Survive on a little just to prove you can do it.
19. Get one big success at an early age. It’ll help build your confidence for bigger things.
20. Do what you say you’ll do. No one is reliable anymore.
21. Be comfortable with abandonment, even of parts of your identity.
22. Learn a new language.
23. Eat more protein.
24. Keep people around you that will tell you the truth.
25. Genius gets you nowhere. Execution is everything.
26. If given the choice of equity or cash, always take cash.
27. Meet new people as often as possible. Offer to help them.
28. Don’t discriminate. Connect anyone in your network to anyone else.
29. If you can’t do a pull-up, you have a problem.
30. Nobody likes a know-it-all.
31. Get a passport. Fill it up with stamps no one has ever seen.
32. Quit your horrible job.
33. Read biographies. It’s like having access to the best mentors in history.
34. Go to bed, and wake up, early. No one will bother you, letting your best work emerge.
35. Scare yourself a little bit every day. It will expand your inner map.
36. Learn to climb trees.
37. Don’t buy a lot of stuff, and only buy the stuff you really love.
38. Be humble and curious.
39. Twitter followers don’t keep you warm at night.
40. Be as useful as you can in as many circumstances as possible.
41. Show up.
42. Repeat people’s names when you meet them.
43. Turn internet access off your phone. Wifi is fine.
44. Get a deck of Oblique Strategies cards. Use them.
45. Make your home a place where you feel safe.
46. Take people up on bets. Make more bets yourself.
47. Take cold showers. They’re better than coffee.
48. Learn to enjoy hunger.
49. Make everything either shorter, or longer, than it needs to be.
50. Always remember those who helped you. Deliver two or three times as much value back.

Come back tomorrow for the remaining 50 tips.

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Confessions of an ADHD Adult Who Was Diagnosed at 37

Back in 2006, ADDitude Magazine did an article on me and overcoming ADD.

It was just recirculated this week online and a wonderful lady from the other side of the continent contacted me to talk, and let me know that she thought the article was great and how it would serve as an inspiration to her 22 year old son who is struggling with ADHD after being recently diagnosed. It’s the little things like that, that make me feel great about helping others and make this blog of mine worth while. Here is the online article from the magazine:

“It’s been said that every crisis is also an opportunity. Jeff Hamilton certainly thinks so. A marital crisis gave the 40-year-old Vancouver, B.C., salesman and now-divorced father of two the opportunity to address the communication problems and chronic lack of focus that harmed his personal relationships and turned his work into an obstacle course. The crisis put him on a path that has made him, by his own account, a better and happier man.

Jeff Hamilton: My ex-wife and her mother were the ones who first suggested I get tested for ADD. That was three years ago, as my marriage was coming apart.
My ex-mother-in-law had been a school principal, and she knew the symptoms of ADD. A couples counselor agreed that my getting tested was a good idea. So I went to see Gabor Maté, M.D., the author of Scattered Minds: How Attention Deficit Disorder Originates and What You Can Do About It. He gave me a comprehensive test, and then the diagnosis became official. I have ADD.

Medication made a huge difference. After 37 years, my brain was finally working the way it was supposed to. It was like coming out of a fog. I could concentrate. I could listen to what people were saying and absorb new facts and ideas. I also became a little better at facing challenges. But I knew that taking pills wasn’t enough. I had to learn some basic life skills, like controlling my reactions and staying organized, especially when things went wrong.
Around the time I went on meds, I started looking for an ADD coach. With Gabor’s help, I found Pete Quily, who also lives in Vancouver. Pete and I have been working together for more than two years now – a 45-minute phone call three times a month.

Pete Quily, Jeff’s ADD coach: A lot of people with ADD say they want to change, but they don’t really want to step out of their comfort zone. Not Jeff. He’s committed to getting better. He’s been willing to do the hard work, to do whatever it takes to overcome his problems. Coaching is a big part of Jeff’s journey, but it’s not the only part. He read books about ADD, got counseling, and joined a support group. Rather than merely take medication, Jeff has taken a multimodal approach. I think that’s why he’s made so much progress.

Jeff: I was never a good student. I would get two or three pages into something, and then have to go back and read it again. I couldn’t sustain my focus.
In college, I majored in business marketing, but I left before graduating. Out in the world, I couldn’t find anything I wanted to do. I gravitated to sales, which turned out to be a good fit for me. You’re not pinned to your desk, and you keep yourself busy with lots of different things, like traveling and giving presentations.
Working in sales allowed me to use my creative side. I started earning good money at an early age. Unfortunately, I was impatient, and I had a short fuse. I had a hard time listening to my boss telling me what to do. I’d get upset, we’d butt heads, and then it was “my way or the highway.” So I’d have to find another job. An even bigger problem was my inability to be empathetic. I knew what empathy was, at least in theory. If I was speaking with a friend whose father had just died, I’d say what you were supposed to say, but I didn’t feel it deep down inside, where it counts, where you really relate to someone. I didn’t feel empathetic. That made it hard to understand people.”
The original article can be seen at ADDitudemag.com

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An ADHD Letter

I Came across a very interesting and touching blog post at ADHDMomma.blogspot.com by Kara Thompson that openly shares a letter her son has given her about his thoughts on being ADHD. I hope you enjoy the read:

“I had another blog post ready to go today, but things changed. My 12 year old son handed me his “Letter to the Editor” assignment. The assignment asked him to write a letter to the editor of a publication expressing an opinion on something he was passionate about. I honestly expected him to write about “Why Kids Should Be Able To Play Video Games Every Day,” but he wrote this instead. We have talked about ADHD a lot together, so I know he worries that people think he’s a bad person. Even worse, I know there are times that he worries that I think he’s a bad person. I cried when I read this, because even though he plagiarized the heck out of the brain function sections, the voice is his, and it’s clearly a voice that needed to be heard. I asked him if he was okay with me sharing his letter on “A Mom’s View of ADHD.” He said, “SURE! I want to share it with the world! I want people to know how I feel!” So, here you go.

Dear Editor,

Why do some people think kids with ADHD are bad? ADHD kids aren’t bad, they just act impulsively. This means they act without thinking. A kid with ADHD has a brain that works differently than other kids’ brains. Some famous people had ADHD. This means that if they have ADHD, then people with ADHD can’t all be bad. ADHD kids sometimes get overactive, which makes it hard for them to be in school.

Kids with ADHD act differently than kids without ADHD. It’s because the brain works differently in a person who has ADHD than one who doesn’t have ADHD. Kids with ADHD have slower brainwave activity than other kids, which makes it hard for them to focus in school. The parts of the brain that are affected by ADHD are the frontal lobes, inhibitory mechanisms of the cortex, limbic system, and the reticular activating system. All of these are vital to the brain, especially the frontal lobes, which control the decision making part of the brain. This means that ADHD can make the brain work differently than other kids’ brains.

A lot of successful people have ADHD. One of them is Albert Einstein, who invented the theory of relativity. Another person is Benjamin Franklin, who invented bifocals. One other person is famous composer Beethoven. Both George Bush, Sr. and George Bush, Jr. had ADHD and they were both President of the United States. Famous photographer Ansel Adams also had ADHD. This shows that if people with ADHD can be successful, then people with ADHD can’t be all bad.

In school, ADHD kids get easily distracted and squirm in their seats. ADHD kids are constantly in motion and cannot complete a quiet task without making noises. Some of the kids talk nonstop and are very impatient. They can be very impulsive and sometimes act without thinking. It is hard for them to control themselves because their limbic system doesn’t function like other peoples’ brains. They need their teacher to understand that they have ADHD so the teacher won’t think that they’re rude and disrespectful. Teachers also need to learn about ADHD so they would know that the kids aren’t choosing to act this way. They need to learn to speak to them without hurting their feelings, and let them learn in their own way. Homeschooling can be good for a kid with ADHD is because he is with people who understand him and know how to talk to him. Kids in homeschool aren’t as easily distracted, because they can take breaks which helps calm their brain down to get more work done.

ADHD kids sometimes don’t think when they are in a place with a lot of kids. Big groups can make it harder for them to control themselves because their brain starts getting real excited and the limbic system starts to not function the same way as other kids.

I know these things because I have ADHD, too. ADHD can make you seem like you are rude and disrespectful to other people, and that can make parents think that their kids shouldn’t be around you. I want kids to think that I am just a person with a different kind of brain, and not that I am a bad person. In fact, I think I am a good person because I care about others, I’m funny and I’m smart. ADHD sometimes makes it hard for me to make friends, but I just want people to understand me. I hope this letter will help someone with ADHD understand that they’re not the only person in the world with ADHD, and that they are not a bad person.”

The original article can be found at ADHDMomma.blogspot.com

 

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Mentoring Adults with ADD-ADHD

As an adult with ADD, Jeff lives life with the first-hand experience of the ups, downs and realities of managing his life with ADD. Having been tremendously active since 2003 with beating ADD through use of medication at times, working with an ADD Coach, his blog which reaches 100,000 people a month and a published book…..he now shares his experience with others. One thing he has always said about himself is, “I’m not perfect“. Having ADD and making mistakes in life are all part of a lifetime of experiences. It is these experiences that have contributed to Jeff’s education and process of self growth which now allows him to proceed at creating a life with purpose and possibility, for himself and other adults with ADD/ADHD. Let Jeff’s tools, experiences and passion for winning help you succeed! Contact Jeff to learn more about how you can work together to manage your ADD/ADHD and create the life you want.

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Turn ADD Procrastination Into Productivity

Loved a recent article I came across on ADHDMannagement.com called 7 Surefire Ways to Turn Procrastination Into Productivity By Jennifer Koretsky. I’ve posted many times about all of these points and it was nice to see so many great tips summarized into one helpful article.

1. Make a Plan: Planning removes the pressure in the heat of the moment and helps you to avoid overwhelm. Spending a few minutes to plan out the task before you tackle it provides you with a road map to follow and eliminates the need to make  decisions when you’re in the thick of things.

2. Get Someone Else Involved: It’s easier to be productive when someone else is working along side you. Get the entire household cleaning up at the same time. If you have errands to run, find a buddy who also needs to be out and about. And make use of public spaces! Take your paperwork to the library or a coffee house.

3. Turn Up the Volume: Turn on some fun and upbeat music and let it pump you up! Music alone can give you the energy and outlook you need to take on the boring tasks. Choose something with a strong beat that puts you in a good mood. A number of my clients have used 80s pop, show tunes, and even club music. Me, I’m a rock chick. I can dance and dust to a rock beat like no one’s business.

4. Do 2 Things at Once: Don’t be afraid to balance routine or monotonous tasks with something that is more likely to hold your interest. You can pay bills while you watch TV, or talk on the phone while organizing your papers.

5. Get Your Priorities Straight: Perhaps you’re procrastinating on a task because it’s not that important. Maybe you’d love to clean out the basement, but it’s not really going to make your life any easier if you do. If it sounds like a good idea but in the end it’s really not that important to you, let it go. Don’t let it hang over your head.

6. Delegate: Why suffer? Delegate boring tasks wherever and whenever you can. Divide up household chores according to who likes to do what, or at least by who doesn’t mind doing what. House cleaning and laundry services, handy men (or handy women!), personal assistants, administrative assistants and more are all available to take some of those boring tasks off your list and free up your time for the stuff you’d rather be doing.

7. Just Do It!!: Don’t think about it too much, just jump in and get it done. Now I know a lot of people have a problem with telling an ADHDer to “just do” something, but we’re not talking about ability here, we’re talking about procrastinating on the stuff that you know how to do, but you just don’t feel like doing. The more you think about it and dread it, the harder it will be to get going. So don’t over think, just do it.

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